Parents Over Shoulder

This page contains information and web links to help parents stay informed about issues affecting children and teenagers. If you would like to suggest additional topics or a helpful link, please email us.

Instant Messaging

Ever see the acronym "POS?" It is teenage Instant Messaging slang meaning "Parent Over Shoulder". It tells the other teen that their mother/father is standing over them, and to not say anything that might get them into trouble. If you need a definition of other slang acronyms (or any other internet terminology), you can use the Netlingo web dictionary.

Good Parenting Guide

Compiled using research from parents, pediatricians, psychologists, gang members, and kids in prison for violent crimes, the Good Parenting Guide is an excellent resource for parents. Parents who were consistent, informative and fair had children who were well behaved. These kids were happier than their peers. They had a very low incidence of drug use, no violent behavior, no suicides. With minor adjustments, these suggestions are also useful in the classroom. It is important that parents agree on behavior control. Two parents who use different systems can do more harm than good.


One on five students in America has used an inhalant to get high by the time he or she reaches the eighth grade. Parents don't know that inhalants, cheap, legal and accessible products, are as popular among middle school students as marijuana. Even fewer know the deadly effects the poisons in these products have on the brain and body when they are inhaled or "huffed." It's like playing Russian Roulette. The user can die the 1st, 10th or 100th time a product is misused as an inhalant.

Child Identification

Information compiled from the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

Parents, guardians, and other family members are constantly searching for advice about how to keep children safer. To help, we’ve singled out some common areas of interest regarding precautionary child identification and safety measures. For more information about these and other safety topics in specific situations, please contact NCMEC at 1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678).
More information on Child Identification

Internet Safety

The internet is a mixed blessing. From any computer, we all have access to a world of knowledge and interesting things. If you have a question, you can most likely find the answer with the click of a mouse. Surfing the world-wide-web is fun and educational, but like in the real world, there's a risk you may encounter the occasional shark which lurks there waiting for the unwary surfer.
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Parent Guide to Gangs

Research indicates that parents play a pivotal role in keeping young people out of gangs. Negative influences within the family- including domestic violence, child abuse, harsh or inconsistent parenting practices, and/or drug/alcohol abuse by family members- cam increase the risk that a youth will join a gang.
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Children and Bullying

If you've ever heard an adult - or anyone else - say that bullying is "just a fact of life" or "no big deal," you're not alone! Too often, people just don't take bullying seriously - or until the sad and sometimes scary stories are revealed.

It happens a lot more than some people think - Studies show that between 15-25% of U.S. students are bullied with some frequency, while 15-20% report they bully others with some frequency (Melton et al, 1988; Nansel et al, 2001).
Learn More About Preventing Bullying

Teen Dating Violence

Could violence be a part of your teen's social life or dating relationships? The answer may surprise you. While we might think that relationship violence is something that could never effect the lives of our children, the truth is that nearly a third of girls surveyed said they know of at least one student at school who has been physically abused by a person that were dating.
Learn More about Teen Dating Violence

Drug Abuse

Can you identify the signs and symptoms of drug abuse? It's important to understand the symptoms, and to recognize that their presence and determine the cause. Learn to look for both the physical and behavioral signs of drug abuse, and what to do when you see them.
More about Identifying and Coping with Drug Abuse
Information about K2 Hallucinagenic Drugs